Category: Giselle Thoughts

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Curi-YAAS Convo with Barbara Kay Q&A!

Episode 77 features Barbara Kay, a crossdresser who lives with her family in Arizona. Here’s our little Q&A with her.

How old are you and where you from?

I am 47, from Phoenix, AZ

How long have you crossdressed?

I have been dressing most of my life, earliest memories were around 4 or 5, and I have been dressing in some form or another every since…

Are you heterosexual? Bisexual? Unsure?

Earlier on, I identified as Bi, but I am married and considered myself as flexible and openly attracted to a more feminine form…

How important is passing to you?

I’ve never cared about passing as I am more about being presentable. I like to make sure I am well kept and well dressed when I present as Barbara

What would you like to do with your crossdressing moving forward?

I just want to connect with others, be there for any form of support…

Are you public about your crossdressing?

Yes, in that I am comfortable going out anywhere when dressed as Barbara

What’s your favorite thing to wear? What would you say your style is?

I like to dress for the occasion so, if it calls for dressing up for an event/outing, i like to wear things trendy/stylish for my age….my style is more age appropriate, I like to look like women who I admire such as Janet Mock, Wendy Williams, Vanessa Williams

What do you wish you did differently in your life?

Wish I had the understanding I have now, when I was much younger, and be able to just be just as carefree with being Barbara as I am today

What advice would you give to other crossdressers or those questioning their gender or sex?

Truly understand who you are with your dressing/gender/sex, and be comfortable being you…

Why did you come on the podcast? [Would you recommend others to come on the podcast?]

Just wanted the opportunity to connect with you as I have heard how great you are and how fun your podcast was to do….absolutely I would tell others to come and share their stories with you, its a great forum/outlet for others to see others are out here just like me!

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Curi-YAAS Convo with Veronica Q&A!

Episode 72 and 74 featured Veronica, a crossdresser living in Seattle

How old are you and where you from?

 48 going on 28, I was born in Helsinki, brought up in Vancouver, BC, spent 10 years on the east coast and then I’ve lived in Seattle since then

How long have you crossdressed?

Since I was about 8, I think

Are you heterosexual? Bisexual? Unsure?

I could be labeled as on the straight side.  I am sexually attracted to the female form.

Are you currently in a relationship?

Yes, married with two kids, 7 & 9

How important is passing to you?

I like to be perceived as a woman rather than a man dressed as a woman.  I won’t change my voice because it is just too much work to do that but if I fool somebody to the point of thinking that I’m a woman until I speak, I’ve done well!

What would you like to do with your crossdressing moving forward?

I would like to keep getting more open about it by baby steps. My extended family might end up finding out and that might be a relief for me… and maybe even them.

Are you public about your crossdressing?

Yes, except for my extended family.  Not so public that I would post my VeronicaLove5000 to my own facebook.

What’s your favorite thing to wear? What would you say your style is?

I love legwear like pantyhose and tights.  I would say classic and pretty.  I love fit and flare dresses and 1950s style.

What do you wish you did differently in your life?

Possibly starting public crossdressing much earlier in life.  It would have been great to have styled my natural blonde hair rather than wearing wigs.  Too late for that now… haha!

What advice would you give to other crossdressers or those questioning 
their gender or sex?

First thing is that repressing it will end up being as successful in your mind as prohibition was in USA.  Second is that coming out, generally, is much worse in your mind than it is in real life.  Lastly, talk to people in the community that you identify with.

Why did you come on the podcast? [Would you recommend others to come 
on the podcast?]

I heard the podcast and immediately it felt like a breath of fresh air for crossdressers.  I wanted to talk to Giselle pretty immediately and, true to her word, she responded immediately and got me on the podcast at lightning speed. I friend of mine already wants to come on the podcast.

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Coming Out Thoughts

Lettie’s story from Episode 35 really just had me thinking about what if people choose to not come out about their crossdressing “secret” to their friends and loved ones, if they so please.

That’s such a valid point that I believe an entire episode about it will need to be in the works for The CrossYaas Podcast, but she’s right.

As a crossdresser myself, who is lucky enough to be able to be out about my “secret” to so many loving friends and family, I find it unfortunate that other crossdressers cant share the same luxury.

I guess the dream is that crossdressing becomes widely accepted as a run-of-the-mill, nothing to look at, who cares sort of deal, but until then, if you’re a crossdresser, or if you have a secret you don’t wish to divulge, then by all means, keep it secret.

But if a “secret” like crossdressing is eating you inside, and you feel the need to tell someone, well tell someone! And if you don’t think a friend or loved one will accept you, well you can contact me first!

Giselle@crossyaaspodcast.com

I’m here to listen! And tell you that it’s okay! Or listen to any of the episodes of the CrossYaas Podcast! I’m here to help!