In episode 87, Emma Scarlet shares stories of her life and what it's like living a secret crossdressing life living in Indiana. Here is a quick Q & A we have with her.
How old are you and where are you from?
I’m 45 and from Indiana.
What brings you to the podcast?
A common acquaintance told me about it.
Are you a crossdresser?
Yes I am.
Do you identify as transgender?
I don’t identify as trans, although I have trans elements in my life.
How would you classify your sexuality?
Not sure. Androgynous/non- binary perhaps
Are you open about your crossdressing/sexuality/gender?
I am NOT open or out publicly. A handful of friends know.
Are you in a relationship? Does your partner know?
I'm married and yes, she knows I crossdress
In the conversation you had with Giselle, you talk about cheating on your wife. What made you do that?
I cheated because I wanted to experience people and sex in different ways. I did it because I could and yearned to be appreciated and objectified.
How much do you love your wife?
I love her very much
Seriously, why is your wife so amazing?
She doesn’t believe in quitting and her Dad quit on her and her sister and she didn’t want that for our kids.
What would you say is a key to a long lasting healthy marriage?
COMMUNICATION
How important is passing to you?
Passing is very important to me, I am not passable and probably another reason I don’t go out much.
What would you say your style is? How did you develop it?
My style is still developing. I love cute skirts and camisole’s. I love a little black dress.
What's your favorite thing to wear?
My favorite thing to wear is a black cami, an oversized shirt that hangs off my shoulder and a black satin slip. Pretty much my pj’s.
What do you wish you did differently in your life?
I wish I transitioned at a young age or come out completely and honestly upfront with my now wife early in our relationship.
What advice would you give to other crossdressers?
Be yourself and love yourself, it’s who you are and you are loved.
Would you recommend others to come on the podcast? Why or why not?
I would highly recommend others come on the podcast. It’s cathartic to hear your own story and deal with what you’ve done or not done.
Episode 86 has everything voice. Giselle talks about why it doesn't matter what you sound like, Kirsten gives you some tips to help sound more feminine, and Sierra gives you her take on voice as a trans woman in this week's Sierra Says.
In episode 85, Giselle continues her conversation with Jessie G in the second part and conclusion of her Curi - YAAS conversation with her.
Jessie G, a Canadian crossdresser comes on the podcast to tell her story. Here's some questions we asked her.
How old are you and where you from?
39, Regina Saskatchewan Canada
In terms of Gender, how do you identify?
Bigender or flexible
In terms of Sexuality, how do you identify?
Straight
With regards to your gender and sexuality, is it difficult living as that where you are?
It can be, depending on the day but pretty good on the whole
Do you consider yourself a crossdresser? Why or why not?
Yes, well mostly, well it all gets confusing. I guess it all depends on ones definition of crossdresser. I’m male and wear women’s clothing, for some I am a crossdresser for others I am beyond.
Do you consider a crossdresser transgender? Why or why not?
Crossdressers in some ways may be considered transgendered. For me I can view transgender as fairly wide spectrum so crossdressers may be a 2 or 3 out of 10 on such a scale.
How do you present in public? Are you open about your crossdressing?
Sometimes at work and out with friends as I have been much more open about it for just over a year.
Are you in a relationship? Does your partner know about your crossdressing? How was that process for you?
In a 14 year relationship, told her in the first month as it is always better to as later on the likely issue is less about crossdressing and more about the violation of trust. So I gauged some reposes and then just but the bullet which is the best option as she has been very supportive
How important is passing to you?
Since I'm 6’3, and I weigh 220 lbs, passing is out the window so I just try to look nice
Do you have a distinct sense of style? How did you develop it?
Less a distinct style as more knowing exactly what definitely isn’t. Developing it was basically experimentation
What's your favorite thing to wear?
Strangely enough, business casual. Who would have thought? Though I am sure it is something about having so many more options than men’s clothing.
Are you in the stage of transitioning? Are you on hormones? If so, can you tell us a little on what made you do that? Was that a difficult decision?
I did start hormones about 6 months ago or so just to see how I liked it and perhaps to get a bit more curves. I finally decided to do it after a bit of a melt down and re-centering of myself. And I also realized that I can always stop anytime I want to.
What do you wish you did differently in your life?
Accepted myself earlier, though it wasn’t always a good option. Luckily society is changing faster than I was.
What advice would you give to other crossdressers or those questioning their gender or sex?
Explore. It’s easier to be you than someone else.
What brought you to the podcast? Would you recommend others to come on the podcast, why or why not?
Honest truth, lack of any other content for crossdressers. Now what kept me around is the real question, I found it 3 or 4 episodes in and the roughness has definitely been smoothed out as you found your stride. It’s also interesting to find out how many different variations there are in crossdressing.
In episode 84, Giselle starts a conversation with Jessie G, a crossdresser living in Canada, about gender, crossdressing, and a variety of other topics.