Episode 133 features René, a crossdresser from the Netherlands. Here’s our Q&A with her!
How old are you and where are you from?
I am 28 years old and I’m from the Netherlands
What brings you to the podcast?
To find like minded people who you can offer support and swap ideas with.
How do you feel about the term crossdresser? Are you comfortable with the term? Do you agree with the word? Are you yourself a crossdresser? If so, how’d you come to that conclusion?
In some ways yes, I consider myself a crossdresser, and in some ways no. Yes because as a male or female, you are dressing in clothes of the other sex and try to act like you are that gender. Then again, I also think no, because why do we need to have names and boxes for everything? People should be able to dress up how they want, regardless of their sex, and don’t necessarily need labels for everything.
How would you identify with your gender identity? You said you’re a crossdresser in your chat with Giselle, but what does that say about your gender identity? Do you think you fall under the transgender umbrella? Why or why not?
I don’t see my self as a transgender because I am happy with who I am as a male and my crossdressing is just a part of me.
How would you classify your sexuality? How did you come to terms with that?
I would say I am bisexual. I found that out after liking a boy on a holiday and I liked intimate contact with him, but I do find women attractive a bit more.
When speaking with Giselle, you talked a lot about being “in a mood” when becoming René. Can you elaborate more on that? What does that mean? What kind of moods are we talking about?
It’s a state of mind I’m in. When I’m stressed, it tends to trigger this state and becoming René is a big stress reliever for me. Also when I see cute things, I want to bring her out.
You live in the Netherlands and your country seems so accepting of LGBTQ individuals and crossdressers. How do you think your country became that way? Do you recommend more people from Europe and around the world move to the Netherlands if they feel like they can’t be themselves?
I think it has to do a lot with the history of this country and that Dutch people are more down to earth. Of course, there are people who don’t accept others, but most do as I feel most people feel like you should live how you want to live. Would I recommend my country? No, not really. The weather is crap and politically speaking, it’s a real mess here.
You talked a little about your parents not being so accepting of your bisexuality and you touched a little on your crossdressing with them. Do you think they’ll ever understand your gender identity and/or your sexuality? Are you okay with them knowing or not knowing?
Honestly it is what it is. I stopped caring about this a long time ago. If they don’t understand then they don’t and if they don’t know about my crossdressing then I’m all okay with that.
COVID-19 has been a struggle for all of us, how has René been affected by the pandemic?
Not that much really. Occasionally I’ll go out for a walk, but I still do not go out as much like I used to, but more because of COVID. My work got a lot more busy which meant less free time, so if anything, that has had a much bigger impact.
What would you say your style is? Tell us about your fashion sense!
I don’t have a fashion sense! haha its really bad, but I always try to go for rock/alternative, gothy types of fashion.
What’s your favorite thing to wear? Do you have a go-to outfit?
Boots, skinny jeans, definitely a leopard band shirt, and a denim jacket is my favorite outfit when I go outside.
What do you wish you did differently in your life? Do you have any regrets?
I wish I was more honest with myself earlier. That’s all.
We obviously know a lot about René in your talk with Giselle… tell us something you omitted about René that you wish you told The CrossYAAS Podcast!
Nothing I can think of right now. Maybe something will come up later. Only thing I can think of is my new instagram username is: rene_reinetsu
What advice would you give to other crossdressers/transgender/non-binary/genderfluid/other individuals?
Listen to your own body and mind. Nobody else but yourself knows how you feel or want to dress.
Would you recommend others to come onto the podcast? Why or why not?
Fuck yes this community is amazing and gives a lot of support.
How will you approach René moving forward? Does anything change after being on the podcast?
Il continue to listen more to her and treat her better than I did in the past.