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Curi – YAAS Conversation with Nicole L.

In episode 135 and 136, Nicole L. comes on the podcast to tell her story. Here’s our Q&A with her.

How old are you and where are you from?

I’m 33-years-old and from Ireland.

What brings you to the podcast?

I love the podcast and really wanted to reach out and find out more about our community and offer my experience as it may help someone listening.

How do you feel about the term crossdresser? Do you agree with the word? Is it an outdated term? Are you yourself a crossdresser? If so, how’d you come to that conclusion?

I prefer the term crossdresser to more derogatory terms like tranny or shemale. I think it’s a self explanatory term. I am a crossdresser because I love being femme dressed up 😊

With regards to your gender identity, you seem to not care about labels really, when you were speaking with Giselle in your Curi – YAAS conversation with her. So how would you classify your gender identity? Do you think we should just get rid of labels entirely?

Labels to me are confusing at times lol. It seems like there’s a new one every year. So to someone that doesn’t know anything about our community it must be even more confusing. But on the other hand labels are important to some people to help them feel like they belong.

Personally I think society has created too many ways to be a person, by that I mean I think we should be able to just be ourselves without judgment or labels, just be the person you want to be. As long as its not harming anyone else what does it matter what you call it 😊

With regards to your sexuality, you seem to be into women as you do have a fiancee (congratulations by the way!). How did you come to terms with that? The idea that you’re into women. Have you experimented at all with same sex relationships?

Thank you 😊 I’ve always respected women and have had girlfriends from middle school onward. I’ve never looked at guys that way. I do find other trans women attractive as I’m attracted to the female form 😊

You spoke about many things with Giselle, and one thing that made an impression was that you do have a 9-year-old son and you expressed worries about him discovering your Nicole alter ego. Do you feel any shame with Nicole when it comes to your son? What steps could you take to help your son understand what Nicole means to you? Or do you want to try and separate Nicole in your relationship with your son?

I don’t feel shame as such, more concern as although even if he knew and was fine with it, I’d be concerned if he told his friends at school as kids can be cruel. I don’t want him to experience ridicule because of me.

I don’t think any steps would need to be taken to help him understand as he’s been brought up to respect others. Unfortunately not every parent brings their children up this way and therefore it’s best to wait until he’s a little older. I will most likely tell him sometime 😊

If Nicole is an alter ego of your male self, what differences, if any, do you notice when you’re Nicole versus you in guy mode?

I’m more relaxed in girl mode. Guy me has his baggage and Nicole doesn’t carry it for him lol

You live in Ireland and you talked a little bit about the unique qualities the Irish have when it comes to the LGBTQ community in terms of acceptance. In your opinion, does the outlook of the LGBTQ community for Ireland look more positive, negative, or the same, and why?

I think its a positive outlook. For the most part I think people want to be more open minded and accepting. The LGBTQ community is supported in Ireland. Gay marriage is legal here and during pride month there are rainbow flags flown everywhere 😊

With over 27 thousand followers on Instagram, and an increasing online presence, how do you feel about being a so-called “influencer?” Do you consider yourself that? What does that even mean to you?

I don’t consider my self an influencer to be honest. If I’m helping people or just making them smile then I’ll keep posting. But mainly I do it for a confidence boost. I’m an extremely insecure person really so, putting myself out there in the spotlight of social media is me pushing myself to be more confident. 

COVID-19 has been a struggle for all of us, but how has Nicole been affected by the pandemic?

Nicole has had it easy lol guy me had some ups and downs but for the most part it’s been OK. Others have had it worse.

What would you say Nicole’s style is? Tell us about your fashion sense and how you developed it!

Fashion has been a turbulent ride 😅 I’ve styled Nicole’s look after many iconic females such as Audrey Hepburn, Christina agulara etc. I’ve just kept colour in my look. 

What’s your favorite thing to wear? Do you have a go-to outfit?

Skater skirts! I love them 💜 also bodycon dresses because who doesn’t love them? They’re sexy! Lingerie obviously 😍

What do you wish you did differently in your life? Do you have any regrets?

I wish I could tell 15 year old me that your not a freak, your not alone and that it’s gonna be OK. I wish I had accepted myself sooner, been braver, stronger… Been myself 😔

We obviously know a lot about Nicole in your talk with Giselle…but tell us something you omitted about Nicole that you wish you told The CrossYAAS Podcast!

Well being a crossdresser means you get to see life from a different prospective. You see it from a woman’s perspective. It makes us more intuitive and aware of our partners needs. It’s easy to forget just how lucky we are to experience that thought process as most of us spend a long time trying to suppress it. I say embrace it!

What advice would you give to other crossdressers/transgender/non-binary/genderfluid/other individuals?

Don’t be afraid to be yourself! Don’t be ashamed of yourself! Don’t let the haters get you down! You are different yes, but your uniqueness makes you special and the ones that appreciate that uniqueness are the ones worth your time.

Anything that costs your mental health is too expensive, so if you feel down about purging, shame or dysphoria ask yourself this question… Why am I letting the opinions of those around shape my future?

This world can be ugly and it can consume the unique beauty it holds within. But can be strong enough to weather it, you can be bold enough to be different and you can be bitchy enough to screw you to those who oppose you 😘

How will you approach Nicole moving forward? Does anything change after being on the podcast?

Nicole will stay the same sassy girl she’s become. Her makeup may change her style may alter, but her flare is permanent 😊 the podcast was a great experience. Talking to Giselle really helped me come out of my comfort zone. Also she’s the first crossdresser I’d spoken to in outside of DMs so that was great 😊

Would you recommend others to come onto the podcast? Why or why not?

Absolutely YAAS!! It’s an incredible resource for information for both crossdressers and their partners. Giselle is such an inspiration and a credit to the community. 😊

And finally, where can people support and follow Nicole on social media!
My Instagram and Tik Tok user name is x1xnicolex1x if you guys and girls wanna follow me 😘

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Curi – YAAS Conversation with René Q & A!

Episode 133 features René, a crossdresser from the Netherlands. Here’s our Q&A with her!

How old are you and where are you from? 

I am 28 years old and I’m from the Netherlands

What brings you to the podcast? 

To find like minded people who you can offer support and swap ideas with.

How do you feel about the term crossdresser? Are you comfortable with the term? Do you agree with the word? Are you yourself a crossdresser? If so, how’d you come to that conclusion? 

In some ways yes, I consider myself a crossdresser, and in some ways no. Yes because as a male or female, you are dressing in clothes of the other sex and try to act like you are that gender. Then again, I also think no, because why do we need to have names and boxes for everything? People should be able to dress up how they want, regardless of their sex, and don’t necessarily need labels for everything.

How would you identify with your gender identity? You said you’re a crossdresser in your chat with Giselle, but what does that say about your gender identity? Do you think you fall under the transgender umbrella? Why or why not? 

I don’t see my self as a transgender because I am happy with who I am as a male and my crossdressing is just a part of me.

How would you classify your sexuality? How did you come to terms with that? 

I would say I am bisexual. I found that out after liking a boy on a holiday and I liked intimate contact with him, but I do find women attractive a bit more.

When speaking with Giselle, you talked a lot about being “in a mood” when becoming René. Can you elaborate more on that? What does that mean? What kind of moods are we talking about? 

It’s a state of mind I’m in. When I’m stressed, it tends to trigger this state and becoming René is a big stress reliever for me. Also when I see cute things, I want to bring her out.

You live in the Netherlands and your country seems so accepting of LGBTQ individuals and crossdressers. How do you think your country became that way? Do you recommend more people from Europe and around the world move to the Netherlands if they feel like they can’t be themselves? 

I think it has to do a lot with the history of this country and that Dutch people are more down to earth. Of course, there are people who don’t accept others, but most do as I feel most people feel like you should live how you want to live. Would I recommend my country? No, not really. The weather is crap and politically speaking, it’s a real mess here. 

You talked a little about your parents not being so accepting of your bisexuality and you touched a little on your crossdressing with them. Do you think they’ll ever understand your gender identity and/or your sexuality? Are you okay with them knowing or not knowing? 

Honestly it is what it is. I stopped caring about this a long time ago. If they don’t understand then they don’t and if they don’t know about my crossdressing then I’m all okay with that.

COVID-19 has been a struggle for all of us, how has René been affected by the pandemic?

Not that much really. Occasionally I’ll go out for a walk, but I still do not go out as much like I used to, but more because of COVID. My work got a lot more busy which meant less free time, so if anything, that has had a much bigger impact. 

What would you say your style is? Tell us about your fashion sense! 

I don’t have a fashion sense! haha its really bad, but I always try to go for rock/alternative, gothy types of fashion.

What’s your favorite thing to wear? Do you have a go-to outfit?

Boots, skinny jeans, definitely a leopard band shirt, and a denim jacket is my favorite outfit when I go outside.

What do you wish you did differently in your life? Do you have any regrets? 

I wish I was more honest with myself earlier. That’s all. 

We obviously know a lot about René in your talk with Giselle… tell us something you omitted about René that you wish you told The CrossYAAS Podcast! 

Nothing I can think of right now. Maybe something will come up later. Only thing I can think of is my new instagram username is: rene_reinetsu 

What advice would you give to other crossdressers/transgender/non-binary/genderfluid/other individuals? 

Listen to your own body and mind. Nobody else but yourself knows how you feel or want to dress.

Would you recommend others to come onto the podcast? Why or why not?

Fuck yes this community is amazing and gives a lot of support.

How will you approach René moving forward? Does anything change after being on the podcast?

Il continue to listen more to her and treat her better than I did in the past.

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Curi – YAAS Convo with Stephanie Fredericks Q&A!

In Episode 129, Stephanie Fredericks, a crossdresser and genderfluid individual comes onto the podcast to tell her story. Here’s our Q&A with her.

How old are you and where are you from?

I am 49 years old, I was born in TX, but moved all around and now live in Arizona.

What brings you to the podcast?

I wanted to tell my story because I hope it will someday help someone that listens to this in the future feel comfortable about being who they are. And not fear telling family and friends. It can be hard but it’s not impossible.

Do you consider yourself a crossdresser? Why or why not? Do you even like the term crossdresser? How’d you come to that conclusion?

I used to call my dressing just a hobby, and then I came to terms that I was a crossdresser. And I don’t mind that term because it was exactly what I was doing. As time went on I realized that it has always been something more. There was something more inside me that loved femininity. I came to the conclusion just through time, educating myself, listening to podcasts(especially this one), and deep thought about how I really feel.

How would you identify with your gender identity? You said genderfluid with your chat with Giselle. But do you think you fall under the transgender umbrella? Why or why not?

I identify as genderfluid and I absolutely also feel that falls under the Trans umbrella. I wasn’t sure about that until last year when reading more and more about what it is that defines the Trans umbrella and things just started making sense. One good book I read that helped with my identity was “Seeing Gender” by Iris Gottlieb.

How would you classify your sexuality? How did you come to terms with that?

I always considered myself straight and happily married to a Cis woman. I’m not sure if the fact that I am on HRT changes anything because I don’t feel the need to fully transition as a woman.

Why did you decide to start HRT? You talk about HRT lite… but how did you come to the conclusion to start it? DId you seek a gender therapist beforehand? Did that help?

I didn’t seek a therapist beforehand because after researching micro-dosing and having my practitioner tell me more about it, I knew that it was right for me and probably what my body has been needing to make me feel complete. It’s hard to explain the feeling but it’s one of those feelings you can’t ignore. It was recommended that I now see a therapist while on HRT so I am getting a referral for one.

What’s your biggest fear with this transition? HRT can be a scary word for some, but are you yourself scared?

I’m not scared but some things do still make me nervous. It is going to change my body and some things may be irreversible. I wonder sometimes, if for some reason down the road I feel that it is not working physiologically like I had thought, what happens next?

The thing that stood out in your Curi – YAAS convo with Giselle you discussed your terrible relationship with your ex-wife, who shared the same name as Giselle’s girlfriend from hell, Jenn… What the hell is wrong with her? Why are some of the worst people named Jenn?!

She was greedy, selfish, and just overall not a very empathetic person. And the second question makes me think that someone should do a scientific study on why that is.

All jokes aside, you’ve come out a better, and stronger human being because of that relationship with your ex-wife Jenn. How did you do it? What advice can you offer people who are coming out of a bad relationship?

Thank you. I’d definitely say I learned a lot from that relationship and came out stronger. I was young and I probably married too “spur of the moment” in the first place. But, once I saw some warning signs that we probably weren’t compatible I should have sought help and not just hoped things would get better naturally. My advice for coming out of a bad relationship is to take a break, as long as you need, and reassess what type of person you really want to be with and if you do meet someone new, take your time and make sure they are the right one.

Your wife Gwen sounds like a wonderful human being! How do you maintain a great relationship with her? What is your favorite thing about her? Why is she so awesome!

Gwen’s amazing! And we have a great relationship because we care about each other, pay attention to each other, and are always making sure each other has what we need. We also spend lots of time together because we enjoy each other’s company, but are also able to go do our own things if needed. She’s beautiful and great in many ways but my favorite thing about her is how she can handle any social situation, even if it’s uncomfortable. I lack that skill and have learned a lot from her.

COVID-19 has been a struggle for all of us, how has your Steph self been affected with the pandemic?

There were some things that I wanted to do more as Steph in public but being at home a lot actually allowed me (Steph) to thrive, not only because I dressed more but because I had a lot of time off to educate myself and really think more about who I am inside.

What would you say your style is? Tell us about your fashion sense!

When glamming up I love Pin up, polkadots, business casual, and sundresses. During the work day I’ve been experimenting with some genderfluid clothing.

What’s your favorite thing to wear? Do you have a go-to outfit?

Favorite things to wear are sundresses. Also I dress every night in femme Pjs, a bandana, and eyeliner. It’s just my nightly comfort go-to.

What do you wish you did differently in your life? Do you have any regrets?

I think all of us say this but I wish I would’ve started dressing and coming out earlier in life. But it’s all situational and everyone’s life is different so I am also extremely happy with where I’m at at this point in my life. I’m very lucky.

My Grandad died at 90 and he was always a funny man and a good prankster. After the funeral my family was cleaning his house and found some pictures of him dressed in lingerie in his later years. They didn’t make fun of him but laughed and cast it off at how this was probably his last prank to the family. I’m glad they thought of it that way and not something negative but I looked at those pictures and saw a sad man that probably suppressed his entire life that he was a crossdresser or maybe even more.

We obviously know a lot about Steph in your talk with Giselle… tell us something you omitted about Steph that you wish you told The CrossYAAS Podcast!

I wished I would’ve stated how much I love helping younger crossdressers on social media. When I first went public it was for validation for me and yes, at first I was interested in numbers and comments. Then younger CDs started reaching out to me for advice and I loved it and realized that just me being public and visible and confident was really helping some others to come out of their shell and also not fear showing their true selves to the public. It makes me feel good when someone says that I gave them the confidence to be visible.

What advice would you give to other crossdressers/transgender/non-binary/other individuals?

Read everything you can and learn about who you are. Get help if it’s difficult because it can be. And don’t be afraid to ask people with experience. They most likely went through most of what you are going through.

Would you recommend others to come onto the podcast? Why or why not?

I may have been one of Giselle’s most nervous guests, even though she didn’t think so, and her interview style quickly conquered my fear and I easily told my story. It was therapeutic and made me hope that someday in the future my story may relate to someone new to this and is wondering how to navigate it. No matter where you are in your experience with this it will help you to talk and probably help someone else that is listening to the episode.

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Curi – YAAS Convo with Dottie Q&A!

In Episode 128, Dottie, a crossdresser from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania comes on the podcast to tell her story. Here’s our Q & A with her.

How old are you and where are you from?

I’m 27 and from Philadelphia.

What brings you to the podcast?

My friend Madi invited me to the discord server so I started listening to some episodes after joining. I think it’s great to hear voices of other people in the community and their stories. You can learn a lot about yourself from empathizing with the experiences of others.

Do you consider yourself a crossdresser? Why or why not? How’d you come to that conclusion?

I don’t really like the term “crossdresser” but it’s the simplest way to convey to somebody what I basically do so I use it.

How would you identify with your gender identity? Do you think you fall under the transgender umbrella? Why or why not?

I call myself genderfluid, which falls under the “T” umbrella to me more than it does “Q” or “+”. Honestly, I think labels are stupid and overrated but we still kind of need them to define things for people who have trouble understanding it. Basically, I present masculine most of the time, but when I want to and can I present feminine. I’m still the same person at the end of the day, just some days I’m prettier than others!

How would you classify your sexuality? How did you come to terms with that?

I don’t really know how to define it exactly, I just know I’m attracted to feminine people. I don’t have an issue with any specific bits downstairs, I just know I just find femininity very sexy and attractive. It’s part of the reason why I present the way I do in the first place, I want to feel good about my appearance and look like somebody I would be attracted to. So I’m whatever that is, I like girls!

Are you public about Dottie? Who knows about Dottie and what was that coming out process like, if you did come out? If you haven’t, why haven’t you?

My social media is public for the most part, but I’m not “out” about it to most of the people in my life. My mom knows about it but she doesn’t want to be a part of it, and I don’t want her to be involved either. Doing this is something that I do for myself, it shouldn’t affect anyone else but the unfortunate reality is that it does. It would be different if I defined myself as a Drag Queen or Trans, but I am a part of this weird in-between space that’s more difficult to understand than either of those. Not to say it would be any easier as whole coming out as the aforementioned labels, but people nowadays have a better understanding of who those people are. At the end of the day, it’s not really anybody else’s business. If I had a partner, I would have to come out to them, as a relationship with me wouldn’t work if they couldn’t accept Dottie.

How important is passing to you? Would you say you have passing privilege?

My goal is to look like what I think a woman looks like in my head. That’s not to say other interpretations of femininity aren’t valid of course, this presentation is just what I personally like. So that’s the goal, to “pass”. I’m not sure if I fully attain this goal but I try really frickin hard to.

In your Curi – YAAS Conversation with Giselle, you talk about presenting Dottie in the most hyperfeminine of ways just like Giselle. Tell us more! Giselle loves being slutty, but would you say you feel the same? Or is it something else? Like, why be hyperfeminine?

I would say I try to be more flirty than slutty! I think of femininity and masculinity as very binary definitions, so when I present fem I try to put out the most feminine aura I can achieve. As to why…cause it’s fun! Also if I’m going to take a million hours to do makeup and hair I’m not just going to put on a t-shirt and jeans and call it a day, I’m cranking it up to 11.

You also wear a breastplate when you become Dottie. What made you decide to wear a breastplate? What are some pros and cons that people don’t realize when wearing one?

I think that goes along with the hyperfeminine thing, to me that means you gotta have some cleavage. I’ve wanted one for as long as I can remember, but never had the means to store or purchase one until recently (thank you stimulus!). I got one that is like a crop top, It doesn’t have any straps or anything so it limits the sort of outfits you can wear if you are trying to hide the seams and make them look as natural as possible. Most of my wardrobe either doesn’t really work well with them since it wasn’t an issue for me before, or completely covers them up which sorta negates the whole point of wearing them. They for sure help shape your upper body and take eyes away from the flaws in your figure that way and of course add more curve to your silhouette. If I had to purchase them again, I would maybe get one with neck straps and go a little bit lighter on the skin tone. Also I would go bigger!

Safe to say COVID – 19 has had a major effect on the world. How have you been affected by this pandemic Dottie? Have you felt any benefit or loss during this pandemic with regards to your gender identity?

Before the pandemic, I just began going out in public to bars and clubs en-fem. It was so much fun, but then it was taken away through no fault of my own. I realized that once you take the next step, level up so to speak, it’s really difficult to go back down. Mentally that is. Given the circumstances, I couldn’t go out anyway so I was forced to just be fem alone in my house. That sucked! A benefit was that over the last year, I focused on experimenting and trying harder with makeup. I don’t love makeup, in fact I loathe the process. However I recognize I need to do it to even make an attempt at achieving my goal, so I tried really hard at getting better with it.

Clearly your style is the best. Madi stole what you wore when you did that Instagram Live together.. So what would you say your style is? What kind of fashion sense would you say you have that makes everyone want to BE Dottie?

Thank you! Madi is just creatively bankrupt and can’t come up with any outfit on her own so she just steals my ideas. That’s exactly what I do though. The best artists steal! I really just look at what other people are wearing and either replicate a look like theirs for myself or I put my own twist on it.

What’s your favorite thing to wear? Do you have a go-to outfit? Do you dress differently in private than you do in public?

My favorite thing to wear is probably pleated skirts believe it or not. I think there is something super cute and flirty about a pleated skirt and a top that complements. I for sure dress differently at home than when I go out. At home I try more elaborate shapewear since I know I’m only going to be wearing it for a little while. In public I try to be a little less revealing and more comfortable. Going to the bathroom in public is already stressful enough in the first place, I don’t want to add padding, Spanx, and several layers of tights on to that stress.

What do you wish you did differently in your life? Do you have any regrets?

I wish I would have started going out sooner than I did, but I didn’t have anyone I was comfortable enough with to do so.

We obviously know a lot about Dottie in your talk with Giselle… tell us something you omitted about Dottie that you wish you told The CrossYAAS Podcast!

I think we alluded to it with the “Yu-gi-oh!” tangent but I am a huge frickin nerd. I probably like or have some sort of strong opinion on whatever nerdy thing you can think of.

What advice would you give to other crossdressers/transgender/non-binary/other individuals?

If you are struggling with how you look, you just have to keep putting in the work until you get happy with it. That happiness is going to be different for everyone, some people want to just put on a dress and some people need to be medically treated for gender dysphoria. You are the only person who knows what will make you happy, so you should work towards getting there. You only get one shot at living life, so just live it the happiest way you can.

Would you recommend others to come onto the podcast? Why or why not?

Of course! I had a really fun conversation and I hope to be invited back in the future. Everybody should join the discord as well!

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Curi – YAAS Convo with Daphne Q&A!

In episode 121, Daphne, a crossdresser living in Florida, comes on the podcast to tell her story. Here’s our Q&A with her.

How old are you and where are you from?

63 years old, Miami, FL

What brings you to the podcast?

I searched up “Crossdressing” on the podcast app and wanted to see what was out there. I found three and CrossYaas was by far the best

Do you consider yourself a crossdresser? Why or why not? How’d you come to that conclusion?

I am, but only because I have the desire, and I’ve done it before. And I liked it.

How would you identify with your gender identity? Do you think you fall under the transgender umbrella? Why or why not?

I don’t think about those things much, and from what I’ve read about the definition of transgender, I would say no, only because I don’t have the desire to dress full time. If someone said that transgender included part-time CDers, then I’m fine with that. It doesn’t matter to me how people categorize these types of things; for me, it’s very personal and I don’t need to fit it into a category. 

How would you classify your sexuality? How did you come to terms with that?

I’m a straight male. I love women. Adore them. And, like most crossdressers, want to express as them, and feel that femininity. I believe that all males are part female, and therefore expressing female-ness is not something bizarre or outlandish–it’s a natural, important expression. I’m fine with being just as I am, so there’s nothing to come to terms about.

You talked about being a late bloomer in terms of being a crossdresser in your Curi – YAAS conversation with Giselle. What took you so long girl? How were you able to suppress those feelings of being Daphne for so long?

It took me a long time to throw off the yoke of society’s guidelines for how we are supposed to act. How I decide to express myself, how I decide to dress, is entirely my business, but it took me a long time to unravel all the conditioning that most males are put through, to achieve the confidence in myself to accept Daphne as a part of me. The suppression of those feelings manifested in powerful, sometimes non-stop lesbian fantasies. So I just lived that way, not really realizing that those fantasies were the way Daphne was calling out to me.

You’re a 63-year-old crossdresser. How do you keep your sexual drive so high? What advice can you offer someone who doesn’t have that high of a libido, and how can one possibly attain it?

A positive life attitude. Lots of masturbation- the fantasies led to lots of hard-ons, so those had to be relieved, right? I believe now that masturbating frequently exercises not only the penile muscle, but our sexual spirit muscles as well. It keeps them alive and thriving.

What effect has COVID – 19 had on you being Daphne? You talk about recently coming out more as Daphne.. But how have you felt about Daphne since the pandemic started?

The pandemic hasn’t made a big difference. Right after the pandemic began, I lost a very close family member in a car accident. I was dealing with that for most of the year, and so coming out wasn’t really on the agenda- grief and adjustment to a new job kind of hijacked my mindset

What would you say your style is? You’re still developing it sounds like, but what do you gravitate towards? What kind of fashion sense do you have?

I don’t dress often- yet- but I lean towards looser skirts and dresses…knee length and shorter. I like the feeling of my long legs being exposed and I’m not interested in tight clothing.

You may not own a lot of clothes as you’re still building a wardrobe. But what’s your favorite thing to wear? Do you have a go-to outfit?

I have nothing right now except two skirts and a bunch of panties…I love my panties…and I’ve seen some really pretty dresses I want to have. So I don’t have a go-to–yet.

What do you wish you did differently in your life? Do you have any regrets?

Only that I should have come out to my wife about this at the onset of our relationship. It would have allowed more time for us to process, and it would have avoided her feeling like I kept something secret from her, even though I never dressed secretly while I was with her, I only had the desires.

We obviously know a lot about Daphne in your talk with Giselle… tell us something you omitted about Daphne that you wish you told The CrossYAAS Podcast!

Daphne is sweet, kind, and loves talking to other women. But other than that, no.

What advice would you give to other crossdressers/transgender/non-binary/other individuals?

Don’t let fear motivate you. Be yourself–be HONEST and OPEN with your S.O. – Dont worry about what others (other than job, etc) will think. Live life to the fullest. If someone really loves you, they will work hard to learn and accept you. Come out EARLY in the game. Don’t wait.

Would you recommend others to come onto the podcast? Why or why not?

Absolutely! It’s a fantastic forum for CDers to vent, and learn about themselves through others experiences. I love it.

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Curi – YAAS Convo with Jessie G Q&A!

Jessie G, a Canadian crossdresser comes on the podcast to tell her story. Here’s some questions we asked her.

How old are you and where you from?

39, Regina Saskatchewan Canada

In terms of Gender, how do you identify?

Bigender or flexible

In terms of Sexuality, how do you identify?

Straight

With regards to your gender and sexuality, is it difficult living as that where you are?

It can be, depending on the day but pretty good on the whole

Do you consider yourself a crossdresser? Why or why not? 

Yes, well mostly, well it all gets confusing.  I guess it all depends on ones definition of crossdresser. I’m male and wear women’s clothing, for some I am a crossdresser for others I am beyond.

Do you consider a crossdresser transgender? Why or why not?

Crossdressers in some ways may be considered transgendered. For me I can view transgender as fairly wide spectrum so crossdressers may be a 2 or 3 out of 10 on such a scale. 

How do you present in public? Are you open about your crossdressing?

Sometimes at work and out with friends as I have been much more open about it for just over a year.

Are you in a relationship? Does your partner know about your crossdressing? How was that process for you?

In a 14 year relationship, told her in the first month as it is always better to as later on the likely issue is less about crossdressing and more about the violation of trust. So I gauged some reposes and then just but the bullet which is the best option as she has been very supportive

How important is passing to you?

Since I’m 6’3, and I weigh 220 lbs, passing is out the window so I just try to look nice

Do you have a distinct sense of style? How did you develop it?

Less a distinct style as more knowing exactly what definitely isn’t. Developing it was basically experimentation

What’s your favorite thing to wear?

Strangely enough, business casual. Who would have thought? Though I am sure it is something about having so many more options than men’s clothing.

Are you in the stage of transitioning? Are you on hormones? If so, can you tell us a little on what made you do that? Was that a difficult decision?

I did start hormones about 6 months ago or so just to see how I liked it and perhaps to get a bit more curves.  I finally decided to do it after a bit of a melt down and re-centering of myself.  And I also realized that I can always stop anytime I want to.

What do you wish you did differently in your life?

Accepted myself earlier, though it wasn’t always a good option. Luckily society is changing faster than I was.

What advice would you give to other crossdressers or those questioning their gender or sex?  

Explore. It’s easier to be you than someone else.

What brought you to the podcast?  Would you recommend others to come on the podcast, why or why not? 

Honest truth, lack of any other content for crossdressers. Now what kept me around is the real question, I found it 3 or 4 episodes in and the roughness has definitely been smoothed out as you found your stride. It’s also interesting to find out how many different variations there are in crossdressing.

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Curi – YAAS Convo with Abby, an ABDL Q&A!

Abby, a crossdresser living in Missouri comes on to the podcast to talk about her crossdressing and her fetish for Diaper wearing

How old are you and where you from?

28, I’m from Missouri

How long have you crossdressed?

I’ve been Crossdressing since I was probably five but only recently I’ve started doing public outings.

Are you heterosexual? Bisexual? Unsure?

I consider my Asexual. I am currently dating my Girlfriend(Mommy). We have dated for a year

How important is passing to you?

Passing is somewhat important, but I don’t feel that passing is in the cards for me.

What would you like to do with your crossdressing moving forward?

Moving foreword I would like to become more confident in my Crossdressing and public outings.

Are you public about your crossdressing?

I am not public about my Crossdressing

What’s your favorite thing to wear? What would you say your style is?

My favorite thing to wear is cute short dresses or “little” clothes. Think Melanie Martinez style.

What do you wish you did differently in your life?

I wish I was more confident in my different oddities sooner in life and accepted myself sooner

What advice would you give to other crossdressers or those questioning their gender or sex?

The advice I would give about Crossdressing is you have to practice to become better and build confidence. If you are questioning your gender or sex I think you have to research and learn all you can about different genders and sexualities to discover who you are

Why did you come on the podcast? [Would you recommend others to come on the podcast?]

I’m coming on the podcast to share my experiences and knowledge on asexuality and the ABDL kink. And yes, I highly recommend for others to come on the podcast to tell their story.

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Curi-YAAS Convo with Barbara Kay Q&A!

Episode 77 features Barbara Kay, a crossdresser who lives with her family in Arizona. Here’s our little Q&A with her.

How old are you and where you from?

I am 47, from Phoenix, AZ

How long have you crossdressed?

I have been dressing most of my life, earliest memories were around 4 or 5, and I have been dressing in some form or another every since…

Are you heterosexual? Bisexual? Unsure?

Earlier on, I identified as Bi, but I am married and considered myself as flexible and openly attracted to a more feminine form…

How important is passing to you?

I’ve never cared about passing as I am more about being presentable. I like to make sure I am well kept and well dressed when I present as Barbara

What would you like to do with your crossdressing moving forward?

I just want to connect with others, be there for any form of support…

Are you public about your crossdressing?

Yes, in that I am comfortable going out anywhere when dressed as Barbara

What’s your favorite thing to wear? What would you say your style is?

I like to dress for the occasion so, if it calls for dressing up for an event/outing, i like to wear things trendy/stylish for my age….my style is more age appropriate, I like to look like women who I admire such as Janet Mock, Wendy Williams, Vanessa Williams

What do you wish you did differently in your life?

Wish I had the understanding I have now, when I was much younger, and be able to just be just as carefree with being Barbara as I am today

What advice would you give to other crossdressers or those questioning their gender or sex?

Truly understand who you are with your dressing/gender/sex, and be comfortable being you…

Why did you come on the podcast? [Would you recommend others to come on the podcast?]

Just wanted the opportunity to connect with you as I have heard how great you are and how fun your podcast was to do….absolutely I would tell others to come and share their stories with you, its a great forum/outlet for others to see others are out here just like me!